So, I was at Quiznos this afternoon reading my new book and there was a passage that says if you don't have expectations you can't be disappointed. Interesting concept, right? But then it got me thinking...Am I not supposed to expect things of people? Am I supposed to just accept the okie doke? My expectations are high...for everyone. Regardless of the fact that they meet them, exceed them or fall short of them. Just because someone refuses to meet the expectations you've set doesn't mean that you should stop setting them. Maybe one day they'll get it and decide to do better. I can't just let people in my life who won't even try to meet the bar. So, here's my advice: If you don't have expectations for people then, you get what you pay for. I think that by expecting certain things/behaviors it teaches others a thing or two. For instance, if a friend says they will call you back and they don't, repeatedly, not just a one time offense...then what? They are deemed a liar, right? Not a true friend, right? People treat you the way you allow them to treat you. That's what expectations are! It's what you will and will not accept. I'd much rather have people disappoint me. That may sound weird but it's true. If they disappoint me time and time again I don't need them in my life. Thus, the need for expectations.
I don't care what my book says, I'll keep my expectations. Thanks.
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